Videre Becomes Real Life

Note: This blog entry was written by guest author, Katie Selby. Katie is a Co-Lead Facilitator in Minneapolis, MN. 

At LeaderShape’s Institute program, we do an activity called Videre about chaos and change that lets us experience our own reactions to unexpected changes and the instability of systems. I couldn’t help but think of Videre these past couple weeks as the CoVID-19 pandemic brings unprecedented and confusing changes to our lives.

What routines were you skipping along to in early March? Spring semester on campus? A new study abroad experience? The familiar cadence of your work world? Maybe life felt like a circle of your friends, tossing a tennis ball, counting your production wins, and yelling “Videre!” at regular intervals.

I felt the first round of disruptions come into my game the week of March 16th. Assumptions that I thought would never be shaken changed rapidly to a new reality: universities moving to online learning, my kids home from school for the indefinite future, and no longer being able to visit my mother. As each week goes on, I’m realizing that the disruptions will continue. My city recently announced that all public pools and beaches will be closed for the summer and instantly my expectations for summer with my kids were shattered. I’m trying to stay centered knowing that what I can control are my reactions to the crisis.

When the Videre activity comes to a close, we talk about tension between what exists now and what will be in the future. We share the Margaret Wheatley quote “The things we fear most in organizations – fluctuations, disturbances, imbalances – are also the primary sources of creativity.” I think this quote brings about some important reflection questions for us in the time of CoVID-19.

  • How will you stay centered in your values as unexpected changes emerge?
  • As a leader, how can you model vulnerability and courage for others?
  • What sparks of creativity and innovation can you discover among the disarray?
  • How will your vision change or expand given this rapidly-changing reality?
  • How are you taking care of yourself in order to have energy to give to others?

We are certainly living in unprecedented times and none of us knows the new rules of engagement. In crisis, I find myself seeking solace in my foundational values and for me, LeaderShape was at the center of that values discovery. So go ahead, pull out your LeaderShape binder or visit LeaderShape on social media to reconnect with that feeling of unbounded hope and possibility. The world needs you more than ever!

Katie Selby, Co-Lead FacilitatorKatie Selby has been coaching early career professionals through career & life transitions for more than 20 years in her roles as career coach, college recruiter, and leadership educator. Katie led undergraduate career and leadership development for the Carlson School of Management at the University of Minnesota for more than 10 years, serves as a national Co-Lead facilitator for LeaderShape since 2006. Katie holds an M.Ed. in Human Resource Development from the University of Minnesota and is founder and principal coach of QuarterLife Coach LLC.

LeaderShape in Love: Part 4

LeaderShapeInLoveFebruary always brings about thoughts of love and at LeaderShape, we’re turning to mush over some sweet love stories from folks in our community! Over the course of this month, we want to tell you about some couples who met through LeaderShape, tell you how they fell in love, and take a peek at what’s next for them. We hope you enjoy these stories and perhaps are inspired to reconnect with your own loves!

This is the last part of our LeaderShape in Love series and this week we’re telling you about Matthew Bronoske and Natalie Springer. Natalie and Matthew attended the Institute as undergrads at Miami University. While they had met before the session, they were in a family cluster together during the session and got to know each other better. They began a strong, close friendship that week and started dating a few years later. In fact, their romantic relationship was built on that strong friendship!

Matthew said that, “Active listening has been, and always will be a key part of our relationship. LeaderShape taught us that the goal of active listening is to understand the other person’s thoughts and emotions, rather than solely listening to prepare a response.  We have found that active listening is a part of our daily communication and has fortified our relationship and wellbeing with one another.”

The couple will marry later this year and become “Miami Mergers”, a term used to describe Miami University alumni that marry. About 14% of Miami alumni hold this title! The couple said they hope to teach their future children the values they learned at LeaderShape and spark ideas and visions of their own. We hope that, too!

 

LeaderShape in Love: Part 3

LeaderShapeInLoveFebruary always brings about thoughts of love and at LeaderShape, we’re turning to mush over some sweet love stories from folks in our community! Over the course of this month, we want to tell you about some couples who met through LeaderShape, tell you how they fell in love, and take a peek at what’s next for them. We hope you enjoy these stories and perhaps are inspired to reconnect with your own loves!

This week, we’re telling you about Gretchen Hoppe and Peyton Lightfoot who met as participants at an Institute session at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse! The two met in their family cluster during the first day of their Institute session, but Gretchen had seen Peyton before. She’d first laid eyes on him at the participant orientation session a few weeks before their Institute session. She remembers thinking he was pretty cute and was hoping to interact with him once they got to their session.

During the Institute, Peyton stayed after a session to ask a question, but handed Gretchen his backpack and asked her to save him a spot next to her for lunch. Gretchen said, “That is when I first had an idea that he might be interested in me in the same way I was interested in him. This gave me the courage to pursue further conversation more towards a relationship rather than just as friends.”

Gretchen and Peyton often find themselves thinking back on their Institute experience and all they learned about themselves. They spent so much time talking to each other about their core values and what is important to them.

While they’re both still students at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse, they’re also continuing to work on the visions they created at the Institute. In the meantime, they’re debating names for their future pet kitten, and are season ticket holders for Forward Madison FC, a semi-pro soccer club.